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Why no one laughs at your jokes


Our life is full of moments that make society laugh and smile. Of course, this is wonderful, because thanks to laughter we increase our mood and charge ourselves with positive emotions. But there are times when an event that causes laughter has a double meaning, and your smile can create a negative impression of you. How to prevent this? How not to smile at the wrong moment? Here are some tips to help you avoid getting into a delicate situation.

See if you can keep a straight face! Some people use the relaxing power of laughter in a group setting, doing yoga called laughter yoga. Because smile and laughter are contagious, they help people get involved. A smiling person sends a friendly signal, which usually leads to another person smiling. One of the important goals of a smile can be that it creates social bonds. Scientists have even discovered that we connect physically when we share a smile or positive emotion.

So, the next time someone tells you to "cheer up" when you are in a low mood, you own it. Laughter has spread to a real epidemic. The whole village burst into hysterical laughter. The reason for these mysterious incidents was probably a lot of stress due to the recently gained independence and the associated higher expectations of parents for children. Laughter is part of our psyche.

How not to laugh at your own jokes

This article is co-written by Paul Chernyak, LPC. Paul Chernyak is a licensed psychotherapist from Chicago. He graduated from the American School of Professional Psychology in 2011.

The number of sources used in this article is 8. You will find a list of them at the bottom of the page.

Have you ever spoiled a joke with laughter? Can't you tell a joke without riding on the floor? Regardless of whether you tell ordinary jokes to family and friends or go on stage in front of an audience, controlling laughter is an important skill. To learn this, you will need to rehearse, learn to be calm, improve comedic skills, and sometimes use several techniques to restrain the burst of laughter.

Keep smiling

  1. Try to remember something sad and sad. This will bring a little discouragement, and a smile will disappear from your face by itself.
  2. Imagine that someone’s mood depends on your smile. And suddenly, with your smile and laughter at the wrong moment, you will offend someone very much. Agree, it’s not very nice to feel guilty.
  3. In order to force yourself not to smile, you can carefully pinch yourself. From a slight pain you will stop smiling. Just be careful and make sure that no one notices.
  4. So that your smile is not noticed, find a favorable excuse and move away from the source of laughter.
  5. Try putting something sour in your mouth, such as a candy with a strong lemon flavor that will make you forget about the funny.
  6. Another way to avoid a smile on your face is to lightly bite your tongue or lips. Your thoughts about the funny immediately give way to pain. Just do not overdo it with biting, so that later you do not have to treat the oral cavity.

Learn to hold back your emotions

In addition to the above simple tips, you can form a psychological defense against reaction to funny situations. It is possible to control your smile by training in front of the mirror, doing auto-training, developing facial expressions. Constant training will help you at the right time.

Children and children laugh on average 400 times a day, often for no reason. Adults only 15 lasers per day. This case shows how little even today is known about laughter and the enormous impact that laughter can have. Psychoanalyst Alfred Kirchmayr sees laughter as "an elementary opportunity to express very conflicting emotions and social contacts." For him, laughter is one of “the most complex manifestations of life, which is essentially ambiguous.” That is why we laugh at happy happenings, as well as with grief, evil or fear.

But why did laughter develop at all? There is no doubt that laughter performs a social task. No matter how different theories about the origin of laughter, they all see in it the function of social coexistence. Laughter could develop as a socializing element among our ancestors. Already in primates - and, therefore, among our ancestors - signs of laughter can be recognized. They show this behavior, for example, in a playful bellows, it signals the harmless nature of biting and scratching.

Having learned about the possible control over your smile, do not forget that very often your smile can help a person, give him self-confidence and give a good mood. Therefore, smile more often and enjoy life!

Laughing for no reason is not a sign of the smartest person. But not laughing at trifles is pretty hard. It is especially difficult to do this at a young age, when your hormones laugh at you. And in order not to be strange in comparison with others, you must understand how to stop laughing for no reason. To do this, it is worth analyzing what generally causes laughter and how to control this process.

Mixed laughter is being cooked. Thus, mixing is used for communication. It works in a region of the brain that is older than the human speech center. Even before the development of the language, people laughed with each other, for example, when a threat was approaching. This group was necessary for survival, because it was easier to live in a group and, therefore, longer.

Whatever the laughter, the function remains the same: laughter is, so to speak, putty that unites the community. However, with this combination of people there is also an exception. Finally, there is a sarcastic or mocking laugh. In this case, laughter is a sign of superiority, which means that the other is not one of the group and therefore cannot laugh. Thus, one can explain jokes about some groups, such as blondes, oriental friezes or even other sex. Even the joy of harming the sufferings or misfortunes of others shows its superiority, but also the relief that pushes him towards someone else, and not towards himself.

Why are we laughing at nothing?

Laughter directly depends on the level of hormones of joy in the blood. That is why during a period of hormonal instability, people are most prone to laugh.

If there are a lot of such hormones in your blood, then you are already potentially laughing. You need only the slightest reason to turn the inner fun into the outer one.

Studies have shown that people in society laugh 30 times more often than alone. There may be a variety of reasons for laughter, but “hearty, real laughter is always spontaneous,” says Hans Walter Plzeck, a laughter researcher who calls himself a “lifelong” clown. Real laughter is a reflex that cannot be artificially produced. However, gypsum also sees gradations in various causes of reflex laughter: The most important reason for me is the paradox, the unexpected. It also characterizes the clown, the failure has already been programmed, but there is nothing to talk about.

The same goes for tears. If there is a decline in the hormone of joy in your body, then you want to be upset. And you need some reason.

Keep this in mind and do not think that everything depends on the circumstances. Circumstances do not play a big role. It all depends on you and your body.

How not to laugh for no reason?

There are some easy ways to get rid of this stupid habit:

The philosopher, known as the infamous Griesgram, did not seem to have a particularly strong sense of humor. But why do some people laugh more than others? “Whether someone has a sense of humor or not depends not only on the form of the day, but also on education and past experiences, because in childhood a lot of things work out,” suggests Hans Walter Putze. For Alfred Kirchmaira, humor is rather a lifestyle. Humor in a narrower, in the real sense, is a child of the joy of life, despite all the misfortunes.

Real humor is friendly and not offended. The witty culture and comedy that are widespread among us are widely unscrupulous. Because dominate the dumb stance and feel good. Fun and weakness are often too short. Many people suffer from migraines, chronic pain, and everyday disorders. When is it too much good?

  1. Understand that you control laughter, not the other way around. Think about it and you control it
  2. Don’t think of anything fun at this moment. Then the desire to laugh will just remain the desire
  3. Take a break. For example, try to remember if you turned off the iron at home or if the house is locked.
  4. Look at yourself from the side. Imagine how stupid an idiot looks when he laughs in an inappropriate situation. This will immediately beat off the desire to laugh,
  5. Think of something important to you. For example, imagine how you will pass exams. This is certainly not a joke.

There is still a method of reverse psychology. Imagine that you are in a championship on humor and you just need to laugh out loud. In this case, your level of laughter will be measured with devices.

Cultural differences are clearly recognized.

When will we become too rigid, one-sided and inflexible? This pressure then is noticeable in that the Germans abroad are usually described as carefree, cold and tough, and the Swiss are arrogant and knowledgeable. As a rule, Austrians are usually not recognized at all if they speak from Austria, and 90% - with the reaction “ahh kangaroo” as an Australian.

Tricks not to laugh for no reason

Among other things, you can apply a trick such as thinking about something sad. Remember the Hachiko movie or something else. There will obviously be nothing to laugh at.

For self-confidence, this is also a huge blow if you can take your grain and stay free. Control freaks are often upset and inflexible because the rest of the world does not dance according to their whistle. If you do not accept people acting on their own, you are also quickly disappointed.

Being more flexible also means looking at the situation from different perspectives and taking risks and learning from mistakes. It helps us to be clear in an ever-changing environment. It also leads us to greater openness. Openness to these circumstances, which can lead to even more fun.

Unmixed feed

This is perhaps one of the most important (if not the most important) signs of bad humor. Neither witty subtext nor a funny plot can save a joke if it is not funny told. Probably, one cannot learn to pronounce jokes so that they are laughed at, even if they are not very funny. At least we have not seen such courses. Natural charm, artistry and eloquence rather matter here. That is why sometimes what sounded very funny in your head did not cause the same reaction among the listeners. It was simply worth rehearsing the presentation of a joke more thoroughly or inviting some folk artist to tell her. In fact, it’s okay if you don’t know how to tell jokes. This does not mean the absence of a good sense of humor. In the end, it is determined not only by how you joke, but also by what you laugh at.

Using genre stamps and memes

A similar situation applies to memes. The recognition of some of them became so high that some statements became winged. But, unfortunately, these same statements are often played out in the form of a joke. In general, there is nothing wrong with it when not abused. But when phrases like "But this is not exact", "Coincidence? I don’t think! ”Or“ Uzbagoyzya ”summarize each speech you made, do not expect much enthusiasm from the other person.

Repetition of jokes

There is nothing more unfunny in this world than a joke repeated twice. But no, there is: a joke repeated three times, four times and so on ad infinitum, until you get bored. Even if this joke is very successful, you should not repeat it within the framework of one gathering or in one company. No one doubts that this joke is ridiculous, because it is precisely its success with the audience that gives rise to the desire to repeat it again. So do not spoil it! Even the probability of a shell getting into the same funnel is greater than the fact that they laugh at your joke once more.

Perhaps today the only successful use of puns is advertising, although this does not always work out there. In humor, the opposite is true: the majority of puns are an unhurried relic of the “Full House” era. Although, admittedly, successful examples exist. But they certainly do not include any kind of “Gentlemen at the dacha”, “Laughter in the big city” or “Lord of the End”.

The desire to fit into someone else's company

As we wrote above, good humor is a relative category. He has his own cultural context, which determines the degree of his quality. For example, jokes that are unlikely to sound ridiculous to people who are “off topic” may be popular among programmers. Therefore, if you are in a new company for yourself and you do not want to laugh at their jokes, this is not surprising. But keep in mind that your humor may not go into these people. And if this happened, this is a sure sign that your attitude towards him is different. From this, even more ridiculous are the attempts of adults to joke in the company of young or women - on men's topics.

Explanation of their jokes

If no one laughed at your joke, this is not the worst. It is much worse if you then begin to explain its meaning. It’s better not to. Even if the joke was not laughed because no one understood it, an explanation of the meaning is unlikely to cause the desired reaction. Unless it makes others understand why you thought she was funny. In this case, it’s better to laugh it off somehow, like: “It sounded funny in my head” or “I’m just in the Bad Jokes order”. Or you can just leave this party and not appear again among these people.

Too much

Even in such a good thing as humor, you need to know the measure. So that your speech does not become too cloying from jokes, you need to at least half dilute it with something else. We have already said that humor must be natural. But its excessive amount causes the opposite feeling and can quickly tire the interlocutor. The value is exceptional, and a large number of jokes in the conversation will lead to the fact that a person will generally cease to be taken seriously.